Relationship/friendship na “lean on me” o,
no be “press me die” ( with your issues)
Don’t suffocate your lover or friends with your problems – even if you know they’ll always turn up.
That’ll make you an inconsiderate human.
And you yourself, you go like move with inconsiderate person?
No, abi ?
So, why you con dey act like one?
Friends or lovers are supposed to be supportive to each other.
But, when e dun be like say na only you dem dey support and you no dey do anything to support dem back…
Just know say you be wicked person.
Own am with your full chest.
You’re just a fvcking terrible person.
Because…
Why you go dey do like less privilege person cos you get supportive lover or loved ones?
Wait…
You think they don’t have their own problems too?
Hold on…
What have you contributed to the relationship or friendship over the years since you met them? 🙃
Nothing?
If I say you be “Useless person” now e go be like say I dey insult you.
But you sef check am na.
If no be say you useless, why you no fit mention ONE thing you dun contribute to your lover/loved ones life?
One thing o, just one!
Wait fess,
So you no fit mention ONE thing wey dem fit see or remember and thank God say dem meet you – and get you for their life?
Smh. 💔🤦🏽♂️
And na people like dis dey quick halla “fake friends everywhere ” the day their friends no fit turn up for dem o.
If you’re quick to discard the 99 great things someone has done for you because of the 1 thing they didn’t or couldn’t do
Here’s what you are…
An Entitled STUPID IDIOT.
Have the nerve to call someone “fake friend” because they can’t help you when you need them?
I don’t even know if that’s the height of emotional blackmail, stupidity or heartlessness.
E dey do me like say make I deck you laidis. ( para mood activated).
No, they’re not supporting you because they want anything back from you.
But…
You suppose use dat your big head think and try support dem in any way you fit support them.
And support isn’t even limited to money alone!
Cos I know say na dat one you wan use as excuse now…
Say you never dey financially stable yet.
Osheey, chief executive excuse giver.
Before you defend your bad character on you lack of finance…
Here’s what you should do, give what you have.
Give YOURSELF ( time, energy, attention, ideas, etc.)
Practice the act of service, because…
Act of service will forever be a thing!
But…
Do you even know what act of service mean
When you’re constantly begging or trying to emotionally blackmail people to take advantage of their kindness or love for you?
See…
I know say all fingers no dey equal o, but…
Must you claim to be the smallest finger?
Are you comfortable with being the weakest link in your relationships or associations?
Are you proud that you are dispensable in your relationships ( platonic or sexual)
Omo, change o.
Change.
I mean, you really need to change.
You should change because…
Life will be sweeter if we all try to reciprocate the love, kindness and care we get – to others.
Dem say givers never lack
You dun sit down ask yourself about takers?
Think am fess.
If givers never lack,
I think it’s safe to say takers will keep lacking – right?
Or, lack is for the takers, cos they’ve programmed themselves to always be at the receiving end.
Change.
Learn to give.
Give from the small you have now.
Na from that your small you dey give, you go tey get the habit of giving –
And na the habit of giving go turn you to the giver wey no go lack.
You dey feel me?
Remember…
You no don’t need to have heaven and earth before you give.
Give from that small wey you get.
And no forget say – giving no be only about money o. (Read am again)
Like…
You can give your time to help a friend feel good in time of distress.
You can give your energy to assist a loved with a chore, fix something, or help them
You can give your attention to people when you’re with them to make them feel seen, heard, understood and loved!
You can give them an idea to start a biz… improve on themselves, or grow their business or brand.
You can give them an opportunity to grow by recommending their products or services to other people.
So, stop thinking you don’t have anything to give.
You have more than enough to give.
Don’t comlicate it.
Just give.
You just need to change your mindset from always being the receiver.
Change your thinking pattern.
Change your mindset.
Change your life!
Make your lover and paddy dem enjoy your presence for their lives.
E go give you pure joy, trust me.
Warning! No go give because you wan impress o.
Cos that’d be the height of foolishness.
It won’t even count for anything.
Here’s what you should do…
Give from a place of love.
Nobody gats even know say you give anything.
And that’s when you’ll be qualified to receive the rewards of giving.
Kill the urge to seek for appreciation or validation for your giving.
E Get Why.
Stay Sharp!