Some people had no business bringing kids into this world, but they did.
And now, those kids are suffering for their ignorance.
I feel sorry for many children today because…
They are products of premature adults who got married just because they had money, but no real orientation on life or marriage.
Or products of desperate people who married under pressure, not because they were truly ready.
So, they started bringing kids into the world without a single plan on how to raise them.
Some people think building a home is just about financial stability.
As long as they can provide, they see no need to be physically, mentally, or emotionally present for their children.
But is money really the core of a thriving home?
What about:
→ Effective communication
→ Emotional intelligence
→ Understanding
→ Leadership
Many children are growing up in toxic homes because their parents had no business getting married.
Some people don’t plan for marriage.
They plan for the big wedding but not the life after it.
Many marry because they see others marrying, no personal reason.
Some don’t even have the values to build a home.
I mean…
Which value yahoo boy or hookup girl wey marry wan give their children?
And if the source of their illegal money stops, what happens to the children?
The truth is…
Marrying for the wrong Reasons = Unavoidable Future Regrets
Many people got or are getting -married for the wrong reasons, and when reality slaps them, they start to regret their decisions.
That’s where toxicity starts.
And If kids are involved, they tolerate each other just for the sake of the children.
But then, those kids grow up watching their parents abuse themselves physically, mentally, or emotionally.
So, what kind of home training will such kids have?
Las las…
They won’t even understand what it means to be loved properly.
Because their default setting will be toxicity and dysfunction.
And if they don’t heal, they’ll be time bombs, waiting to explode on whoever they end up with.
Or worse…
Both parents might divorce, leaving the kids to pick sides, or not.
These children would grow up without FEELING the comfort, warmth, or true love of both parents.
And because they never knew what true love felt like at home, they may:
– Go out begging for love.
– ️ Tolerate stupid people just to feel “wanted.”
– Run away from real love because it feels foreign.
Why?
Because dysfunction is their love language.
And when they finally meet someone who wants to love them properly…
They’ll get their guards up, shut their heart, and run away because they think it’s a trap. 🤦🏽♂️
Too many broken people walking around today
Many look successful, well-dressed, even happy…
But deep inside, they are scarred.
They are hurting from unhealed childhood trauma, waiting to bleed on whoever they end up with.
It’s heartbreaking.
If you’re one of them, please, heal.
Drop every baggage and trauma from your past.
Don’t let it rob you of your greatness and future family.
Fix yourself now, so you don’t become bitter, broken, and emotionally numb.
Be intentional about becoming whole, for your sake and everyone attached to you.
Okay?
Before you get married or have kids, ask Yourself:
👉🏾 Are you truly ready for marriage,
or just lonely?
👉🏾 Do you want kids,
or are you just afraid of being alone in old age?
👉🏾 Are you getting married to build a home,
or just to please society?
👉🏾 Do you want kids because you’re ready,
or just so they don’t call you ‘barren’?
👉🏾 If society didn’t pressure you to marry, would you still want to?
👉🏾 Are you truly healed and complete—mentally, emotionally, financially?
Be brutally honest with yourself.
Because the world doesn’t need more dysfunctional marriages.
And it definitely doesn’t need more broken children who’d grow up to become damaged adults.
Fix yourself first.
Heal completely.
Then, build the home you never had, or you’ve always wanted.
Stay Sharp.