” Allow single people to breathe.”
” Relationship people won’t let us breathe.”
” Why are you oppressing us the single people?”
Whenever I see those comments online,
It makes me feel somehow.
Like…
How does what people who are dating and doing their thing connect to you being single?
How?
What kinda delusion is that?
And the way these people dey lament online ehn, most times no be cruise o
They sound so fucking pained and jealous.
But why nau?
Na person do you?
Do you want to be unfortunate?
Cos why would you be feeling so pained about people whose relationship doesn’t concern you?
Are you a witch/wizard?
Answer o.
Wait fess…
Who even made being single a crime?
Cos I don’t see where the UNNECESSARY pressures of feeling TENSIONED
Is coming from.
Some people haven’t even finished knowing themselves or have a great relationship with self
Yet, they’re bothered about ‘relationship people.’
Misplaced priorities no pass laidat o.
Anyways…
If you’re one of such people who feel TRIGGERED whenever relationship people post or do something
I want you to change, it’s not good for your mental health.
Okay?
Oya put your hands on your head and repeat after me,
” I’m not an enemy of relationship or progress!.” (5×)
Next step:
Channel that energy you use to lament online under relationship posts into building yourself.
Do you feel me?
Stop embarrassing yourself online.
Wait…
Are you not loved at home?
Even if you aren’t
Don’t YOU Love Yourself?
Answer those questions to yourself.
And start doing better.
The sad thing is, you haven’t always been like this.
What changed?
Most times, you start feeling pressured and ‘tensioned’ because you’re copying bitter single friends or strangers online.
Some of these bitter people once had amazing relationships but ruined it by themselves…
And because they couldn’t fix it or get it back, they resort to feeling bitter towards every upcoming, thriving, or successful relationship.
And you’re blindly copying them to be bitter and irritated about relationship people?
No be so nau.
I no go talk say you no get sense o.
You get sense scarra, just dat, e be like you no too dey use am laidat.
Cos if you’re using your senses, you won’t feel tensioned or pressured by people in relationships.
Stop that bad habit today.
You can do better joor.
Do better, abeg!
Stay Sharp,
Efe
P.S. Remember that someday, you may get into a relationship too.
How’d you feel when strangers on the internet or in real life start cussing you or wishing you bad for being in a relationship?
Hope you won’t cry foul o.
You must be ready to take what you’re giving now – when tables turn later.
You don’t want that energy later, trust me.
So…
Start doing better now.
P.P.S. Send this to anyone who needs to hear this.
✌🏽